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Sports Parenting Column for week of 9-17-06

Dear Billy,

So many times in the sports world you hear about the importance of having that desire and attitude to succeed. What's more important, talent or desire for the student athlete? We have a 12 year old son who works hard and has a great attitude. His talent level is so-so for his favorite sport, which is football. How will future coaches grade the importance of each?

Ohio Parents

Dear Ohio Parents,

Most coaches will depend on athletes they can develop, teach, and train to do the things they want them to do. Most coaches take the approach of 'you get me the athlete with raw talent, and I can mold and shape them into one that I like.' For the most part, this will hold true. At the same time, coaches are always looking for that athlete with the extra desire and good attitude who's glad to be part of a team. Coaches know that this can be contagious and rub off on the other kids. No doubt that talent outweighs desire and attitude, but a good athlete possesses all three. Most athletes who possess a strong desire to succeed will find success, whether it be sports, academics, or eventually the business world.

Dear Parents,

There is nothing more annoying than a parent who lives their own personal athletic dreams through their children. We have all seen this type of parent. Parents should be supportive of their child's athletic endeavors, but not overbearing. Don't be too boisterous or too visible. You know why? Because if you are lucky enough to have a good athlete, other people will notice without your comments. Use common sense and try to put yourself in the position of the coach, officials, or other parents if a controversy comes up. The main goal of a sports parent should be to develop a good relationship between themselves and their child. Never let a bad sports experience come between you and your child. You are the adult and must set the example for your child.

Sports Parenting Tip of the Week

Be realistic about your child's athletic ability and athletic potential. Don't expect too much, regardless of their age or ability.

We encourage your questions on sports parenting and athletics. Send to askbillyshep@aol.com or write P. O. Box 70 Carmel, IN 46082.

Billy Shepherd is a former Indiana Mr. Basketball and a professional athlete (ABA) who earned 15 varsity letters in high school. His father was a Hall of Fame coach and Billy's two sons attended college on athletic scholarships. Billy has been speaking on parenting athletes for 15 years.

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